The G-spot, or urethral sponge, is a largely mysterious yet magical place in the female body. Every woman has one (yes it’s true, we do!) and this area is generally easy to locate. So why is it that so many women, and men, are still searching for this portal of pleasure?
There is a long, complicated cultural history to consider that includes sexual repression, sexual shame, misogyny and religion. The G-spot does not have anything to do directly with human reproduction—even though it plays several important roles—and at one point all of the areas of the female genitals that did not involve reproduction were removed from anatomical models. To this day medical textbooks are still missing parts of the female anatomy. Because the G-spot is located on the inside of the vagina and is not easily visible, perhaps it has been easy to dismiss or in some way, forget about.
Stimulation of the urethral sponge, also known as the G-spot and female prostate, leads to female ejaculation; a subject that is still taboo in our culture. What many people don’t know is that women, like men, also have the ability to ejaculate. With a G-spot orgasm women can release a clear liquid from their urethra that is stored in the urethral sponge. This can be a phenomenal release of tension, emotion and bliss and any woman can learn how to do it.
Today the media continues to perpetuate the idea that the G-spot is mysterious by giving false and inadequate information on how to find it and how it works. Recently a study was released that supposedly questioned the existence of the G-spot altogether.
Many women and sex educators know from their own personal experience that this is definitely not true! Your G-spot and all of the pleasure it contains is there, waiting to be discovered by you. Here’s how to find it and what to do when you get there . . .
The G-spot is more than just a spot but an area that has a head, a body and a tail. It is literally a sponge–the urethral sponge.
The urethral sponge is located on the roof of your vagina. It can begin in different places for different women but for the majority of women it is located just inside the entrance of the vagina and often tucked slightly under the pubic bone. With your fingertip facing upward you will feel a rough area just inside the opening of your vagina. To get an idea of what this feels like run your tongue along the ridges of the roof of your mouth just behind your front teeth. As you do this, the ridges get more pronounced and the same is for your G-spot as you build arousal and its erectile tissue expands and it fills with fluid. Once you locate your G-spot anchor, or gently press, your finger in like you are massaging (as opposed to rubbing with friction) and move forward and back or side-to- side. Explore a little further back and see how that feels. With pleasurable touch the ridges will engorge and become more pronounced and you will be able to feel small valleys on the sides.
Some women have no feeling in their G-spots at first, others experience discomfort or pain in the beginning, ultimately it should lead to extreme pleasure but this may take time. The G-spot is literally a sponge that soaks up emotion and sometimes it is held tightly and protected. If it does not feel great at first alternate this with something that does feel great like clitoral stimulation. It is usually best to explore your G-spot on your own first and then guide your partner to it. Vaginal penetration and G-spot stimulation, whether with a penis or a finger, is always better after a little foreplay and external touch.
What are you waiting for?!?!? I’m looking forward to hearing how your journey from mystery to magic unfolds.
For the bible on women’s anatomy and sexuality get Sheri Winston’s revolutionary book, Women’s Anatomy of Arousal.
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